Making a Move
The basics of French kissing starts with making a move. You don’t always have to wait for the other person to initiate the kiss.
Be in control of your own needs. Assertiveness is the key to French kissing. It’s always better to go for it rather than asking to start kissing which can make things very awkward. Experiment with different types of kisses first. A kiss on the forehead and then on the cheek will prepare the both of you to then start kissing properly. A close embrace is a perfect way to start French Kissing, as moving in for a kiss from a distance can be very awkward!
Starting Slowly
French kissing is not a race. When you try to French kiss quickly, it can make things a lot worse. Often both you and your partner
will be nervous about French Kissing, especially if you’re not experienced. Rushing causes awkward moments. So, relax, look into each other’s eyes and do it gradually. Begin with kisses that graze the lips and slowly add tongue when you are comfortable. Sucking on the lips is a nice way to continue from there. You can also play around a little bit with your partner’s tongue. Once you being to feel relaxed with what you are doing, then is the time to start increasing the intensity and the pressure.
Be in the Moment
Thinking too much is likely to do a lot of harm when French Kissing. The most important thing is that you are present in the moment
and that you are relaxed. Don’t be worrying about how well you are doing. By staying in the moment, you can ensure you’re passionate about kissing and that you care about the person. Kissing is an act of love and a sign of communication so treat it with importance and care. What matters more is that you show genuine interest rather than constantly fretting over technique. Stay present, relax and try not to overthink about your kissing technique. A passionate kisser is more important than a scientific kisser.
Respond to your partner’s actions
Always try to pick up on any signs of your partner’s feelings during the act of kissing. If they are going slow when they’re kissing, generally you should be too. Though spontaneity can be nice, always ensure your partner is ready by paying attention to their demeanour. Eye contact is the key to reading your partner’s mood. Don’t just keep going with what you’re doing because you like it. Smothering your partner because you aren’t paying attention is a very bad move. If you feel like increasing the passion and intensity, then try to do
so slowly. If they respond in kind, then this is a good sign that you can continue.
Tongue Basics
Proper use of the tongue is the most basic feature of French kissing. Passion comes from using your tongue effectively. Too little
tongue can be boring, but too much tongue can be overwhelming. Always try to strike a fine balance. Don’t try to thrust your tongue forcefully, but don’t just go for a simple peck on the cheek either. A gentle use of the tongue in the mouth can be very passionate. Don’t try to follow what you see in the movies because these kisses are not good. French kissing is about building the momentum. You
start off slowly and then gradually increase the intensity.
Hand Movements
Beyond just using your tongue your hands are also a key instrument in French Kissing. The worst thing you can do is to leave your hands hanging awkwardly at your side. Worse yet is to have them in your pocket! Wrap your arms around your partner in a tight embrace. Play with their hair, cup their face or even hold their hand. Just remember to do something as the hands are a great communication tool to let your partner know you are comfortable and happy. It also makes the kiss more passionate as you feel a much stronger connection to your partner.
Eye contact
When you finally feel as though you’ve mastered French kissing, it can be fun to experiment. Some new techniques might be key
to spicing up the kiss. While something you should never do when starting off, you can try to open your eyes once you’re experienced. Eye contact before kissing is a very important aspect. Doing so during the kiss can increase the passion and intimacy of the moment dramatically.
Losing yourself in the moment
The best thing you can do when French Kissing is to really get into the moment and enjoy it. Let your worries go and stop thinking about anything else. By losing yourself in the moment you can bring even more excitement and passion to the situation. Any problems you have don’t matter when you’re in the middle of French Kissing!
Kissing is the cornerstone of relationships
Oftentimes, couples in long-term relationships will begin to neglect make-out sessions with their partner. Kissing is an important component of every healthy relationship. While it’s usually the first thing that couple forgets about it can often be the most important. Don’t be lazy about French kissing, you can always improve and make your partner’s experience better. And never assume that kissing isn’t needed in long-term relationships because it always matters.
Communication is key to the
Always be open to a discussion once the make-out session is over. While people are often very insecure about their kissing, you will only get better through proper communication. That being said, don’t be overly critical of your partner if you feel they aren’t great at French Kissing. Being too judgmental about it will likely result in your partner not wanting to kiss anymore. What we want is clear communication about certain aspects you may not have liked, so that moving forward the kissing will be better. There’s no exact science to French kissing beyond the basics here. Everyone kisses differently and there’s no one right way to French Kiss. Let your partner know what turns you on and inquire about what their wants and needs are as well. What’s important is teamwork and communication between you and your partner so that the both of you can really enjoy French Kissing. So, if you’re looking at how the French Kiss, always remember the basics to go beyond being a nervous French kisser!
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