It’s really hard to meet someone when you’re stuck at work long past quitting time and the bar scene is starting to get old. You’ve even grown tired of blind dates because once again, you were told she had “a great personality,” when honestly, she didn’t.
That being said, what does one do when all the traditional methods of dating stop working? You try online dating and one of the many sites out there, but which one do you choose? That’s entirely up to you, of course! Many sites offer free trials for a month but you’ll still need to enter your billing information. After your trial is over, if you don’t cancel, you’ll be charged a monthly fee until you either: One, cancel your subscription, or two, find the love of your life. You might be wondering why one has to pay for a subscription to a dating website so here’s why you might want to fork over your money, for at least a month or two.
Paying for a dating website is often a good thing because if you meet someone that person is more likely to commit to someone if they had to pay a fee in order to meet them.
You’re also more likely to meet someone on a site you’ve paid for, especially if you’ve spent a lot of money to use that site. Those who spent little to no money on a dating site were less likely to choose a date than those who’ve invested time and money searching for a potential mate.
Did you know that men spend more time on dating websites than women do? The average man spends around 49 minutes searching for Mrs. Right and he spends about $50 doing so. Women on the other hand, spend spend just 28 minutes searching for Mr. Right when paying the exact same amount of money.
Consider then, the cost of spending time on an online dating site. It’s best to pay a monthly fee rather than a one time, yearly fee. If you pay by the month, it’s easier to cancel your membership if you decide online dating isn’t the thing for you.
If online dating is something you’ve tried, or you want to try, then take note of how it works. Go to any online dating site and you’ll be presented with a profile to fill out. You’ll tell potential dates all about yourself, your likes, your dislikes, your astrological sign and more. You’ll even be asked to upload a picture of yourself.
Once your profile is entered into a database, it’s out there for all the world to see. Other men and women who have access to the site will be able to check out your profile and then let you know if they might want to meet you. This will be done through a “flirt,” a “wink” or another symbol of love. After that, it’s all up to you. You decide who you want to meet and where you want to meet them…in public, is of course best.
Remember, however, that everyone isn’t always honest. You might think you’re going out with someone who resembles a movie star but end up going out with someone who isn’t. That being said, let’s pretend you’re going out on a date. You’re nervous and you don’t quite know what to expect. Maybe it’s been a while since you last dated and you’re nervous so here’s what we suggest you do:
Women
If you’re a woman who is using an online dating site here is our advice to you:
Always remain confident! Be proud of who you are as a woman and have fun! You’re about to begin learning all about another person so keep an open mind and engage with them. Look them in the eye when you talk to them and listen to what they have to say.
Don’t drag anything out! The sooner you commit to meeting someone the more likely you are to actually meet them. At the same time, if a date isn’t working out, it’s best to end it from the start. Don’t continue dating someone just because you feel bad for them because that will give them the wrong impression.
Maintain your sense of humor because you’ll need it as you meet people! Yes, there are crazy people out there and you’ll meet one or two from time to time. It’s best to laugh it off and move on when you meet one!
Try other dating sites! Each dating site has their own sort of “community” and you never know who you might meet. You might not have the same experience with each site so you’ll need to experiment a bit before finding the right site! Check our Adult Dating Reviews and our Casual Dating Reviews
One last tip for women…
Don’t take it personally and this is where a sense of humor helps! If you come home from every date feeling down and depressed you bring a negative sort of vibe to your dating experience. You don’t want to carry this over to a date because it’s not a turn on, it’s a turn off!
If online dating doesn’t seem to be working for you, you might need to take a break. Give it rest for a month or two and start dating again once you feel as though you are ready.
On to the men….
Be there in person! This means no texting or email to ask her out. Be present when you ask her to go on a date and when/if you show up at her house to pick her up, don’t lay on the horn in the driveway. Women hate that. Get out of the car, with flowers in hand and knock on the door!
Take your time! Don’t rush things, especially when she tells you no! If you really care about a woman you’ll need to take her feelings into consideration as well!
Meet in public! For the first date, or two, it’s best to meet in public. Choose a non-committal spot like a local coffee house where you can grab a quick bite to eat. That way, if it’s not working out, you can easily go your separate ways without wasting a ton of time.
Look your best! “Every girls’ crazy for a sharp dressed man!” No, really, you should always look your best. Comb your hair, trim your beard and iron your shirt. If you look hot, you’re more likely to snag a second date than the man who looks like he just rolled out of bed!
When online dating remember that it’s hard for everyone! Meeting someone new is always a challenge because your nervous and you’re never quite sure what to say! Try your best to have fun while you’re out and about and remember not to take it personally if it doesn’t work out! There are other men/women out there who would love to meet you!
