There are several terms which you will come across when in online dating. You may have heard of breadcrumbing, ghosting, zombie-ing, orbiting, benching among others. Nowadays many people are talking about fishing. You may have been worried about the true meaning of the word. You should not worry; fishing is simply when you send messages to many people in an online dating platform. It involves a case where you will send messages to all matches in your online dating app so that you can attract the attention of people who will read your messages. You will just send the messages to multiple profiles after which you will wait and see who will respond to your message. It is an effective strategy you can start a conversation if you are not sure where to start from.
If you have not yet tried fishing, the other people may have tried it on you. Some people in online dating apps are highly selective while others can try to send
messages to many people from where they can know one who is interested. Fishers are known to send a lot of messages to different people from where they can decide on whom to pursue.
The concept of fishing has been around for a while. The dating apps have recently tried incorporating it in their platforms. It is an effective strategy which can improve your dating adventure.
The fishing process does not only happen on dating apps, there are some people who fish amongst their friends. You can as well fish among your exes and the previous flings where you will wait and see who may be willing to hook up. It is a process which saves you time.
A classic message sued by fishers can be something, “What are you doing tonight?” The messages are not too blatant. You do not have an idea when someone is fishing on you.
After a fisher has received several messages, he or she will then assess the messages and go for the highest bidder. The fisher may even ignore answering texts of people who he or she is not interested.
The idea of fishing relies on the millennial dating trends where you refuse to commit to a person if there are better options for you to date. Fishers do not go for the first person who replies the message, they will wait and asses different messages which they receive so that they can go for the highest bidder.
Many people agree the idea is not bad because they apply it in their daily life when looking for someone whom they can go together to the film or when trying to find friends who can accompany them to dinner. Even when choosing a hangout party, the idea works very well.
It is not a good feeling when people discover you have fished them. For instance, if you ignore one for the other, the one who has been ignored will feel like you have left him or her for a better option which is not a good feeling at all. People
prefer begin a priority rather than options which can be dropped anyhow.
It does not feel good when you discover someone you like has just copied the message and send to you as well as to many other people. It feels really insulting.
Fishing is a lazy strategy which can be really damaging to self-esteem. Those who are not ready to interact with as many people as possible can resort to fishing so that they can find new partners but those who have been fished on will find it very insulting.
There are several ways you can catch a fisher. First, try to check out for generic messages. People who get in touch late night during Saturdays and Fridays are probably fishers. They tend to have slow reply rates and they may seem not to have a lot of interest in you as you try to interact.
The best way to tackle the issue is to ignore the messages. You will gain a upper hand because you will not feel offended. There are many fish in the sea; the person trying fishing on you can as well catch other fish rather than spoiling your mood after you warm up only to discover you have been a low bidder. But again maybe you missing out on something 🙂
Relationship expert. I like to write articles that helps people get back on the horse and start dating again. I have been writing for blogs since 2003